CLB 033: Loneliness is a Choice

loneliness is a choice

Is loneliness a choice?

Now, I know the title of this podcast episode may be controversial.

I mean no offence by it and I think you’ll understand that, along with what I mean by it once you’ve listened to the episode. So, as always, I just ask you to keep an open mind and notice if what I say resonates with you or not. If it does, wonderful, I encourage you to put it into practice in your own life. If not, that’s okay, too.

Key Points Re: Loneliness is a Choice

  • Our false self – our ego – only really ever finds itself in the reflection of others. That’s why it doesn’t tend to do very well when it’s alone because it’s not getting any reflection. And, as a result, it tends to go inside and the reflection it gets inside is usually not very pretty… a negative reflection usually – we tend to be very hard on ourselves.
  • What creates these feelings inside us though? Is it the situation itself – being alone, the present moment that you are living in? Or is it caused by believing the thoughts and the stories that your mind is telling you – by believing what your mind is telling you about being alone?
  • Be willing to slow down and question it. Get very specific – what is the specific thought, the specific sentence that is causing the feeling of loneliness in you? Not just, my thoughts in the general sense or as a vague notion – what is the exact, specific thought that is creating this discomfort for you?
  • The emotion – loneliness in this case – is not who you are. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking there is something wrong with you. The ego loves making yourself into a problem. You’re not a problem that needs to fixed.

Episode Transcript

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Take action to first understand the loneliness, to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you’re feeling, to question its validity, to cultivate self-awareness, and to connect with the unlimited love and peace within yourself by showing unconditional love toward yourself. Then take action towards connecting in this same way with others.

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